Emotion “Vocabulary“

Emotions are simply inner experiences created by energy moving through our system.

From life experience we know that sometimes this energy moving through is light thus it’s a pleasurable inner experience and we want more of it, while other times - it’s a denser energy moving through. This density tends to weights us down and stir discomfort so we tend to avoid it as it’s not easy to remain in this kind of internal experience.

( more about light & dense energy on a spectrum - here.)

Yet most importantly in THIS blog post - emotional experiences, though personal, are often universal.

Specific emotions usually trigger the same set of specific body reactions across multiple of people and that shouldn’t be a surprise as after all we are all governed by the very same human body intelligence.

This intelligence is constantly sending signals through bodily reactions, each expressing specific emotions that reveals the state of one’s soul — its likes and dislikes,

moments when it is being violated

or when it is lacking something fundamental like connection, purpose, love.

…or times when the soul finds itself in joy, deep satisfaction and fulfilment in response to a particular experience being outlived 🐬 🥰

So that energy moving through us — which we've collectively labeled as emotions — is sacred messaging. It’s the soul’s way of guiding us through life, showing us what aligns with our core and what does not❗

It’s just that as a species, we haven’t yet realized the full potential of this inner guiding system

- its’ ability to lead us toward our deepest truth, our highest good, our utmost potential, towards our life’s purpose.

And this is so because we are too clouded by the rational mind - the societal environment we are in — especially the western cultures — are

all about the masculine energy attributes - logic, rationality, productivity, performance and tangible outcomes. This hyper fixation on one energetic pole and then subsequent neglect of the other, in this case - the feminine pole which is all about emotions, feeling and the internal wealth — brings suffering. This suffering is the result of this energetical disbalance between the masculine and the feminine.

We as species are still very largely underdeveloped in the healthy expression of the feminine energy - it’s how it was for centuries, something that has been passed from generation to generation, like a curse sort to speak. When we are met with our intense and heavy emotions we still behave as the cave time human - “run”, “avoid” , “danger!. Yet in contrast, when it comes to logic, structure, and outward productivity, we’ve evolved far and beyond the cave-mind. The general trend is this: we’ve become masters of masculine energy—but we have yet to truly understand, honor, or embody the feminine.

But the main point I want to leave you with is this:

Emotions are the most direct language of your spirit.

And that alone is an enough reason to start taking them seriously—to listen closely to what they’re trying to say.
Because whatever the message is it’s coming from much more greater, sincere and honest part than your mind

To better understand the language of the spirit — the emotions, as we call them — the table below offers general descriptions of how the body tends to respond to each one.

Treat it as a self-help tool for those who find it difficult to name their bodily experiences as clear, specific emotions.

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Yet for some, it’s not the naming that feels hard—it’s the simple act of connecting to what’s felt in the body.

If that’s where you are, I advise you to read a general approach to How to ‘Start feeling’? —or try a more personal approach - 101 session space where you and I explore specific obstacles you are facing when it comes to connecting with your body 🌱.

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So as we have already established - emotional energy flows through the system and this energy affects the system on all levels.

Yet the most noticeable level on which the effects occur,

the level on which the effects are the most tangible, if I may,

is the physical one — our body’s reactions:

Emotion	<- Body reactions

| Grief | It's an emotional experience of a loss - something that you had/obtained and lost OR something that you've never had/received.

You see, in ideal life circumstances, stuff as love, connection and validation is what we all should've received while growing up as these stuff is what is needed for our healthy emotional and spiritual development. Not receiving them is the same as birthing into this world and not getting enough food - soon enough our physicasl body will suffer immensly, the same logic goes with one's soul and the absence of emotional resources it needs to develop and flourish. So when these resources aren't given to a soul it starts to gets into a mourning mode due to the absence of it. Feelings and bodily reactions are pretty much the same when you mourn your lost close and loved person or a pet - tightness in the chest and throat, fatigue on physicall and emotional level (even when your physical inputs are considerably low as this emotion recquires a lot of internal resources to be processed. This is also the 'why' to why people tend to carry grief for very long - it takes a lot of inner resources and time for this particular emotional experience to be processed). Loss of appetite, trouble sleeping, a need to withdrawl from the world, sudden and unconbtrolable tears, weakened immune system. A sense that you've lost your internal light. A feeling of internal emptiness is being created.

When it's the case of soul grieving due to love, validation, connection not being received we have to understand that it's a tricky situation as the underlying feeling isn't coming from a place that "something very cocrete and easily definable happened". In contrary - it's coming from the life's situation that "something hasn't happened" - love, validation, connection was not offered on a more or less consistent basis. This makes it very hard to put this type of grief into a cause and effect realtionship and adequately name it as it's not rooted in events, but in the quiet, ongoing absence of what was not given. It's often the case with people who had at face value "all right childhoods" - "well I had a mom and a dad and they were bringing me up" but the deal is wether the emotional resources (love, acceptance, connection) were there for you - given freely, without conditions, at times when you needed them the most. This particular emotional experiene of grief is one of the best justifications how emotions do not come from thoughts as the popular cognitive behavior therapy (CBT) is claiming - thoughts create emotions thus let's work with the thoughts to change emotions. BULLSHIT! This popular therpay modality doesn't address the whole picture. This example with grief perfectly shows that some emotional experiences surface from much much deeper layer than a thought.

If there's grief - sadneess, longing, despair, guilt and anger like to come along thus it's a very viscious emotion to be in.

| Sadness | Gentle pressure behind the eyes, dull ache in the chest, watery eyes, slight slump in posture, limbs that feel heavier with each step, a drop in facial muscle tone, lack of appetite, flat energy, slowed heartbeat, slight chills or numbness in hands and feet.

Sadness is one of the most common emotional experiences out there because 1) we live in a polarity universe - we understand what is good/light through the contrast of experiencing bad/dark and sadness is just a result of us understanding the both polarities 2) this emotional experience tends to arrise due to a wide range of occurances in comparison to other emotions - meaning it arrises not just pecifically from an experience of a loss (like grief does) but also it's an emotional response to disappointment, damaged, weakened, blocked connection.

It arises when something meaningful is no longer present — whether that’s a person, a place, a moment, or even a version of yourself. It can also surface when something deeply longed for never arrived.

Sadness exists on a spectrum and has different depth to it:

1. Daily life sadness - due to stuff happening throughout a day - when something doesn't go as we hoped, when we feel disappointed, left out, or when there's a sudden change in our environment or routine, this type of sadness is easy to trace. It tends to come and go by the end of the day or a few.

2. Relational dynamic sadness - a deeper layer of sadness - when it's not an event that made you sad but a specific emotional experience invloving another person - for example:

You feel sad because your parent didn’t comfort you when you were upset.

You feel hurt because someone criticized you when you were vulnerable.

You feel invisible when a loved one doesn’t acknowledge your effort or presence.

🔑 Key Marker: You can usually identify a person, moment, or pattern that the sadness relates to.

3. underlying sadness - a more deeper layer

this type of sadness is not about a single moment. It’s a felt sense that something has been missing all along — and that no one even noticed. This type of sadness does overlap with the already discussed grief itself.

This underlying sadness / grief often comes up when we are starting to do the inner work as we are starting to dive deep into the suppressed emotional layers of the self OR this emotional experience comes up /surfaces when the system itself sees an importance to cleanse from this dense energy

🔑 Key Marker: It has no clear origin or face — it’s more like a silent emptiness that has always been there.

| Anger | Whole body, especially the face is flushed with heat, clenched fists or jaw, pounding pulse in the neck or temples, loud or forceful speech, need to pace or punch something, breath pushing aggressively through the nose or mouth. |

I started to like anger when I understood that it just shows you that certain situations that are happening in the hear and now are violating your boundaries or are charged with injustice - a perfect indication system. Yet not to be influenced by the impulses of anger and creating some destructive mess is another level of mastery 😃

If uncontrobale anger can very fast become rage.

oh yeah anger can also be felt when the needs are unmet.

So basically when emotional experience of anger surfaces our system is saying to us :“This is not okay.” “I’ve been hurt, disrespected, or misunderstood.” “Something needs to change.”

When anger is suppressed, it can turn into resentment or depression. When it is expressed mindfully, it becomes a tool for truth and clarity. When it is acknowledged for what it is - a boundary cross, an unmet need it provides briliant insights about the self and helps one to practicaly understand where the boundaries of self are at and what are the needs of the self 👍🏼

| Powerlessness / Hopelessness | This one is ineteresting and much more common that we'd think. This emotion that is more like prervailing type of one, not the fleeting type is a result of growing up in emotionally unresponsive environemnts where doesn't matter how loud you cry due to one or another distress - no real help is coming your way - maybe just a scream back, an invalidation, ignore or misunderstanding of what actuall needs you have in the moment. This reapetdly reoccuring dynaimc leaves you with internal conclusion that no matter your input you still do not hold the power to change stuff in your life. The thing is that this conclusion doesn't reflect the objective life in which it's you and only you who can change your life it's just that you have grown up in emotionaly and energeticaly distorted environment and thus your conclusions of life is now distorted. This emotion is not just sadness — it’s the collapse and shut down of inner energetical movement related to will power. Powerlessness often lives in the body as heaviness, slumped posture, empty eyes, chest pressure, low muscle tone, heavy limbs, sinking feeling in the chest / stomach, shalow / barely noticeble breathing, general numbness and fatigue, urge to withdra not to mention extremely low motivation to do even the most basic things in ones routine thus the bed is the place one remains in. A sense that the body is "giving up" Energetically, it’s like drowning in the water deeper and deepr and not being able to help oneself.

| Frustration | It's a mix of anger and powerlessness. It's like boling up with the steams having no where to go thus the intesnity is very high, high pressure is building. To this body reacts by being extremely tensed. Tight jaw or teeth grinding, fists clenching or gripping objects harder than necessary, tension in the neck and upper back, heat building in the face or chest, restless limbs, breath that feels shallow or stuck in the chest, urge to pace or release the tension somehow. frequent sighing 😮‍💨 or exhaling sharply. A sense of being on edge.

| Doubt | it's the sensation of having your energy splited into two camps - one that wants to move forwards and the other that wants pull back. your discernment is foggy meaning it's hard for you to make decisions, a internal "being torned apart feeling", it's like you know what you want but your intuiyion is muffled behind layers of questioning. Doubt is a hesitation, a soft freeze in you going about your life, doing and experiencing stuff. Doubt is unsettled stomach, hunched shoulders, there’s a pressure to make a move… but no clear sense of what the right move is thus the energy within and the subsequently your actions in life are paralysed.|

| Feeling not safe | a quiet unease that something is off without clear explanation. A scatter mind that struggles to focus and make decisions, racing and looping thoughts that won't settle, a sense of inner urgency: "I need to do something...I just don't know what". A complete opposite of the relaxation state - tightness and alertness as system is highly tunned to potential threat - both physical and emotional. This tunning uses signifficant amount of inner resources so it overrides the ability to connect, be soft and express oneself - stuff that can only flourish when the basic human needs such as food, shelter and SAFETY are met.

• A feeling of kind of not being in your body because your spirit/energy is withdrawn from the self as in it's 'physical home' - the body it doesn't feel safe.

When one is feeling unsafe it's very often the case of restlesly trying to find a relationship, a connection — that might offer that missing sense of security. Yet however it's a tricky scam implied by deprived psyché, desperately searching for quick fixes in the external world. The hard pill to swallow here is this: no one holds the power to provide you safety if it's not something that already exist internaly. Safety is an emotional resource — and unlike physical resources, it cannot simply be handed over. In the material world, someone can give you money, a car, or a house, and by thsi mere act of someoen giving it to you - you got and posses an object. With emotional resources it's quite different because these stuff have to be cultivated through positive experiences, in this case through the expereinces that carry within themselves an instinsic meaning "I am safe in this world". So in short it all comes down to either your caregivers, through their presence and upbringing, instilled in you a felt sense that the world is safe — or they didn’t. And if they didn’t, then the responsibility eventually returns to you - how willing are you to put in the work towards your internal landscape to create that feeling of safety within yourself? :)))

| Fear | Adrenaline flood, quick and shallow breath, jittery limbs, tight grip on objects or self, tunnel vision, heart pounding in ears, dry mouth, a sense of shrinking inward or wanting to curl up, cold sweats, goosebumps or skin sensitivity, sudden digestive disruption. | it's easy to disguise the momentarily fear - Adrenaline flood, quick and shallow breath, heart pounding in ears, a sens of wanting to shrink or sink into ground and dissapear, cold sweat, digestive disruption yet it's more tricky to notice that the system is experiencing fear when it's a constant hum in the background that shapes how you see your self, others and the world, yet let's explore what is taking place internaly when fear is being active in the background: A strong urge to control situations, people, or outcomes, difficulty making decisions — everything feels risky, future-focused mind: “What if this goes wrong?”, doubt in your own choices and intuition thus feeling frozen, stuck, or incapable of moving forward. Fear can elicit panic, dread, or underlying anxiety. With fear a childlike ache can emerge: “I want someone to help me feel okay”.

| Disgust | This on is an interesting one. Disgust is tied to one's sense of purity, boundaries, and ethics — so when it shows up it signals that something that you are experiencing is truly wrong for you. Very often in contexts of betrayal, violation, manipulation. So this sensation can come in a form of urgent rejection of x, even if there's no sound 'logical' explanation for that rejection to rise. Body reacts with the symptoms of nausea, goosebumps, shivers running up the spine, facial muscles contract — nose wrinkles, upper lip lifts (the classic disgust expression).

| Guilt | When guilt arises it indicates us where we’ve disconnected from the vibration of love or our own integrity. But when suppressed or carried for too long, it turns very heavy, birthing self-hatred, depression, and emotional paralysis that are leading to self destruct. Guilt becomes like an internal worm that is eating you alive. This emotions feels like a weight on the chest / heart - heavy, pressing, burning, sometimes aching. An internal tension, like something unresolved is stuck in the system. Hunched posture like if trying to hide or protect oneself avoidance of eye contact, unfortable being in one's own skin One's energy is being leaked through regret and inner punishment that are the characters of guilt. A general sensation of being pulled down. One tricky part with guilt is that it can be coming from your own value breach or guilt can be imposed by others on you according to their value system that not necessarily has to be the same as yours or if one is trying to impose some manipulation tactics on you - trying to prove you that you are guilty for something because by you thinking so it's good for them, it fulfills their certain personal agendas. You have to be able to distinct between these two because the guilt that is rising from your personal value system calls for responsibility yet the guilt imposed by others is a toxic guilt and it serves no growth. If someone is constantly imposing guilt on you - I have no small talks - leave the relationship immediately as it's a toxic environment for your system. The internal worms will eat you up.

| Shame |Ok so shame has some similarities with guilt, the main difference is that with guilt you think that "my behavior was bad" with shame you think that that your I'am'ness is bad = "I am bad". Shame is the artefact of love not being mirrored back to you in your upbringing that left you with an internal conclusion that something is worng with you. This interpretation is how your inner world justifies the lack of love being received in a form of being rejected, ununderstood, not cared for deeply. The thing is that we come from a source of love, other call it god, universe etc we come into this world carrying that vibration of love and when we aren't met with love, in other words, when love is not being mirrored back to us through unconditional acceptance the way we are we start to internalize this approach that we receive from our caregivers and think that it's us that are faulty this emotion is one of the heaviest that we have on the emotional spectrum and it's very dangerous because it attacks the core of our identity, making us feel unworthy of love, connection or bellonging If this emotion is prominent in your sistem you want to hide, dissapear, shrink because .... well you feel that something is wrong with you and it's hard to be around people and go out to the world, it leaves you highly isolated. bodily reactions are similar to guilt - dropped posture, looking down, tightness in the chest Shame is like a thick fog that for you covers your innate worth and beauty

Burning heat on face, ears, or neck, downward gaze, shrinking posture or curling inward, urge to disappear or become invisible, stillness or freezing, tight chest, nausea, pounding heart, cold fingertips, sensation of being “on display” or exposed. | it's the thus you feel reluctant to go out into the world and express yourself.

| Happiness | It's a light, expansive emotion — a felt sense of ease, openness, and alignment. It's often experienced when there’s no inner resistance, when your heart feels safe to open, and when you’re present in the moment without needing anything to be different. Happiness brings a natural sense of "rightness" — like things are flowing, like life is smiling at you and you’re smiling back. There’s a softness in the mind, clarity in perception, and a feeling that you can simply be. Energetically, happiness feels uplifting and radiant. It moves outward and upward, like the sun rising within. It has a magnetic quality — when you're happy, your energy invites connection, flow, and receptivity. Happiness is a result of alignment with your true nature.

What you feel in the body is a relaxed and open chest, involuntary smile :), spontaneous laughter, lightness and tingling in the body, energized or playful movements, deep, calm breathing. You feel expansive rather than contracted as it's the energetical quality of any light emotion.

| Love | This is the most expansive, unifying, and life-affirming emotion we can feel. Unlike fleeting emotions tied to specific outcomes, love is a state of being — a vibration that dissolves boundaries between self and other. When love is present, we remember our connection to everything as this emotion is the frequency of unity. Love softens the edges of fear, making room for trust, intimacy, and vulnerability. What is interesting with love is that it's not something that we give or receive but it's the core essence of who we are, it's just that the ego perception blocks us from experiencing it as it is a construct that puts on guards in ortder to preserve safety, image etc. I like to think of love as an energetical current that flows through all life, thus love is synonymous with the term consciousness itself. The bodily sensations are in general very similar to the ones of happines just more intense. It's the most powerful force in this reality. Love never forces it just allows and liberates.

| Envy |

Envy is the emotional signal that someone else has or embodies something we long for but feel disconnected from — being it whatever -- beauty, success, love, confidence, peace, or attention. Unlike admiration, which feels expansive and inspiring, envy feels contractive and painful, because it highlights a perceived gap between us and the thing we want that the other has and we yet -- don't. It's the case when energy wants — but doesn’t believe it can have — so it gets stuck in resentment. So it's a supressed desire that we are dealing when envy shows up. It emerges when your psyche sees a reflection of your own potential in someone else, but you're not yet embodying it. So the asignment with envy is to investigate it because it does show which direction you should follow in life. Understand of which attributes you are envious in other people and take initiative of creating these stuff in your own life. LISTEN to your envy, it's a fantastic guide that shows you what's missing in your own life and your system wants to have it.

Bodily reactions: eneral bitterneness, heat, disturbance in the body, urge to avoid the object/subject who triggers that envious state. Shallow or uneven breathing – especially when you see or think about the person you're envious. A sesne of inner emptiness tied to perceived lack, feeling "less than" compared to someone else, difficulty to have a calm mind as it's stuck on what someone else has, an inability to appreciate your own path, making the external world feel more valuable or fulfilling than your own inner reality.

| Jealousy | If envy is more outward-focused — longing for what another has, often mixed with resentment or inferiority then jelously is more inward-protective — guarding what’s yours, often mixed with fear, control, or possessiveness. Jealousy is the emotional signal that what we deeply value or love feels threatened — usually by the presence, attention, or success of someone else. It’s not just about wanting what another has (that’s envy) — it’s the fear of losing what we already have, or being not chosen, loved, or prioritized.

It often arises in relationships — romantic, platonic, family, even professional — where attachment, vulnerability, or identity is involved.

Jealousy is raw. It’s protective. It comes with a deep fear:

“I’m not enough.”

“I’m being replaced.”

“They don’t love me as much.”

“I’ll lose this if I don’t control it.”

Underneath, jealousy often hides abandonment wounds, insecurity, or unmet needs for reassurance. It can also expose how much we care — sometimes more than we’ve admitted to ourselves.

Jelously is the energy of holding on too something/someone very tightly and axiously you're afraid to loose. Jealousy can feel like an inner sting — sharp, hot, and sudden. There’s often a tightness in the chest, as if your heart is bracing for something to be taken away. The body gets tense, alert — like you’re constantly scanning for a threat.

You might feel a sinking sensation in the gut, a kind of clench that comes with fear of loss or not being “enough.” The mind races, but the body freezes — stuck between wanting to protect what you love and fearing you’re already losing it.

It’s being on edge, hyper-aware, almost like a low-key panic simmering under the surface.

| Loneliness | isn’t simply about being alone. It’s the emotional result of being unseen, unfelt, and unheld — even if you grew up surrounded by people. From what I’ve observed in this world, this emotion often stems from being raised in soul-deprived homes — places where there was little to no acknowledgement for the needs that are deeper and more subtle then the physical ones – the emotional and spiritual needs, as only the fulfillment of these needs are we able to form real, supporting and safe interpersonal relationships thanks to which we can truly feel seen, understood and deeply loved – when these stuff do not exist I don’t care how well you are dressed up, well fed and how big room and a lot of toys and perhaps even friend you had – you will still feel as if something is missing and yeah it is – the safe and fulfilling connection aspect with someone is missing. That loneliness can get so intense that it starts to permeate even the things that should feel good and bring in joy. When we have the intense version of loneliness we're talking here some important yet very subtle basic needs not being provided for the individual -- the ones that can only be provided if a healthy, supportive and safe connection is being experienced with your very first human beings – mom and dad.

Loneliness often creates this intense inner craving: to be deeply known, seen, felt — to be safe somewhere. But the trick is… You can’t get that by desperately searching for someone else to give it to you. That only keeps you stuck in a childhood loop — still hoping someone else will do what your caregivers didn’t, someone will hop in into your life and save you (I talked a little about this in the blog post about masculine energy, feel free to read that too if there’s a pull to do so). The underlying idea is that to cure loneliness the only way to that in a healthy, empowering and sustainable way is to deepen the connection with the self. Find ways how provide all the stuff that you deeply need from your own inner resources. If these resources are low, then work What loneliness feels like: A deep yearning to be known

A dull ache, like something’s missing

A sadness for something you can’t name

A drifting, disconnected feeling

Feeling invisible or forgotten, even in a room full of people

In the body, it might show up as: An ache in the chest or solar plexus

A hollow feeling inside the ribs

Slightly hunched posture, limp limbs

Eyes longing or teary

Detachment from your surroundings

A sensation of floating or being unseen

Low energy, little facial expression

A subtle pull in the belly — a kind of emotional hunger

Loneliness asks us to be the hero for ourselves — to build inside what we’ve always longed to receive. That work isn’t easy, but it’s powerful and deeply satisfying once we become good at it.

| Confusion | It’s not just “I don’t know.” It’s “I feel something’s off, but I can’t explain why.” Emotional confusion usually comes in when there’s a mismatch between what’s happening outside (what people say or do) and what you feel inside. The world and the rationale tells you one thing, but your inner sense says another. There’s an invisible tension between the outer message and your body’s truth. And this space — this dissonance — is where confusion is born. Confusion kind of hurts because it splits you -- you feel torn between trusting your inner sense or trusting someone else’s version of reality. And when the person feels sincere — when you want to believe her — it’s even harder. You start questioning yourself because you want to trust her so badly, even if it means bending your own sense of truth. But here’s the thing: If you blindly take in what others say — even from the most well-meaning people — then what’s there left out of you?-- no sovereignty, just a collection of “what she/he/they have said”. People that have managed to get close to you and are bringing confusion into your life are literally your masters because through them being them they are teaching you to tune more into what's true to YOU. To anchor in your own truth and act from it. That’s one of the most powerful human superpowers to have. As a result of you stepping into your own truth I can guarantee you that you'll lose those people who are currently confusing you because you’ll be seeing straight through their masks and fake identities that they care and introduce to others as ‘me’. Let this happen, it’s a natural process of your spirit evolving by choosing inner truth over any kind of relationship. It shows up in the body as:

uneasy gut feelings,

pressure in the chest,

tears rising for no obvious reason,

vague discomfort that can’t be named,

disconnection or a floating sensation,

anxious energy in the solar plexus,

low energy or zoning out for no reason.

| Anxiety | is the state of inner unsafety. It can arrise due to stuff happening in the moment that threaten your sense of safety ( give me some examples) AND anxiety can be an emotional experience that is echoing from your past -- some highly disturbing and traumating moments when you felt super unsafe as a kid. These experiences have a lot to do with — homes where you couldn’t fully relax, unpredictability was ruling, needs were invalidated, ignored, or punished. And so now, even in the most mundane or “safe” situations, the nervous system remembers and starts going into the state of anxiety. So basically anxiety is a message that is saying: “Hey, I don’t feel safe. I don’t feel supported. I’m still waiting for someone to hold me.” and this will continue until YOU become that someone who can emotionally and energetically hold the self. In the body anxiety feels like: A buzzing or vibration in your chest or limbs

A feeling of being trapped in your own body

A sense that you need to fix something immediately, but don’t know what

Shallow breathing, clenching of the jaw, restlessness

The urge to overthink, overprepare, or overperform

The intense pressure to control everything so that nothing goes “wrong”.

if you are feeling something that is hard for you top wrap your head around and make sense -- I’m more than open to help you untangle it — two brains are better than one.